Dating outside of your age range may help you meet more people and increase your chances of meeting someone you want to be in a relationship with. But is it okay to date a Christian much older or younger than you? How big of an age difference is too much? The Bible does not say anything directly about relationships between adults with a big age difference. So as usual when it comes to dating and relationship advice, we need to apply biblical principles and wisdom to the questions we have. Here are 4 points to consider if you want to date or marry a Christian who is older or younger than you.
Ruth wanted to be with Boaz because he was a good man, not because he was her age.
And Boaz wanted to be with Ruth not because she was younger but because she had noble character. Character is always more important than chronology.
Dating as a young christian woman
My wife is five years older than me. I asked her out when I was 20 and we got married when I was She was already an RN.
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I would not be done with getting my masters in pastoral counseling and graduating from seminary until I was 26 years old. When we got together, we knew we were very compatible and on the same spiritual maturity level but we also knew we both would have to make sacrifices to be together because of our age difference.
She would have to slow down on some of the life events that normally happen at her age and I would have to speed up some of the normal life events for my age. I would have to skip over some things and get through things faster and she would have to delay some things and wait longer.
For example, she had to wait for me to finish up school and get a better job before we could have kids and I was not going to be able to ease into adulthood slowly.
Both Bethany and I were happy to do this and neither thought twice about it. Our gain was far greater than anything we gave up to be together. But if you want to date and marry someone who is in a different age bracket, you should expect to make sacrifices to be with this person in a relationship.
I was getting counseling to prepare for my future marriage with Bethany and as I was talking with the counselor he let me know there was no issue with me marrying an older woman.
He did point out, however, that I had more changing to do than her. She was more of the person she would be in life than I was at that time. He was right. At 22 years of age I was still transitioning more than she was at 27 years old. But I have really changed. One of the other books I read was a young woman of prayer, which was also great. Thanks for the suggestion, Michaela! A Place of Quiet Rest is so deep.
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There are so many I need to finish. I love Kisses from Katie as well! Too many books. Thank you for writing this out!
Yes, there are all so many to read. Now I am reading Beautifull Girlhood online.
Sex and the Single Christian Man | What Does the Bible Say. Christian Advice for Dating a Significantly Older or Younger Man or Woman. In summary, there is no command saying two grown adults cannot be together romantically. However, the wider the age difference the more of a sacrifice it will be for the guy and girl. Matt was our recent guest on the Ask Pastor John podcast and answered ten questions on singleness and dating. We get a lot of questions from young Christian men and women who are "not yet married." Their season of life awakens many desires and hopes, uncertainties and insecurities, and tricky pastoral questions.
It is a very sweet book. I recommend for all Christian women and girls these:.
The five languages of love - Gary Chapman 2. Love and respect - Emerson Eggerichs 3.
Becoming the woman of his dreams - Sharon Jaynes 4. For women only - Shaunti Feldhahn 5. His brain, her brain - Walt and Barb Larimore.
All are amazing! Thank you so much for your blog. I love things like these. They open my mind on how others live and deal with issues I have.
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I recommend for all Christian women and girls these: 1. Thats great!
Christian Dating Advice for Women
I hope you enjoy it! Leave a Reply Cancel reply Your email address will not be published. Sorry, your blog cannot share posts by email. Why get attached to someone you know you will need to detach from? Why expose yourself to all that sexual temptation if you know you will not marry that man? Some Christian women date a guy who is not a Christian thinking she will witness to him, which some refer to as missionary dating. This is another bad idea. With every box you need checked, you are eliminating the likelihood of actually meeting someone like that.
All I would say is that you just need to be careful that your standards and expectations are realistic. If you are looking to marry Jesus, stop, because you already are. You are the church and the church is the bride of Christ.
Looking for the perfect person will not only slow down finding someone, it will also ruin your relationship once you do start dating someone.
Give a guy a chance if he checks most of your boxes, especially if he checks the big ones but is missing some of the smaller ones. It just means you should at least explore the idea of a guy you are not initially drawn towards. Plus, in twenty years that hunk you married is going to look a lot different. And if you are married to a good husband who loves your kids, even those extra 30lbs he will put on over the next few decades will not hinder your attractions towards him.
But at least let him try before you totally shut him down. You never know what could happen.
If you want something bad enough, you might be gullible enough to take their bait. So another piece of Christian dating advice for women is this: The more mature you get, the more humility becomes attractive.
When you are in high school, the captain of the football team, the popular guy, or the dude who spends more time on his hair than you do will probably be more attractive to you. So another really important piece of Christian dating advice for women is that you need to listen to your friends and family.